I agree with what was said on Facebook 'this is a heart issue' and not really a 'hard and fast rule issue. Everyone has a different idea of what modesty is. When this subject was brought to me a few years ago by a lady in my church, I initially thought this meant 'nothing fashionable' and was quite discouraged. She taught me 'no shorts', 'nothing sleeveless' but she didn't see a problem with me wearing tight jeans that were low cut..
Years later and after really searching out the issue, I have come to a more complete understanding of 'modesty.'
I now think that putting a blanket rule on things eg: 'nothing sleeveless' is too harsh. For example, I think a sleeveless shirt would be ok if it has wide straps, it doesn't have gaping material around the armpits or it's too low at the front. [not]
I have come to my own conclusions about what I feel I should wear. I don't wear jeans at all anymore and I occasionally wear long shorts around the house if I'm cleaning
Essentially I think modesty is "not distracting others by the way you dress with things that are too low in front, too tight or short.
Mrs. Julie Fink said Jun 24, 2011 11:57:33
Hi Sarah, The truth according to the Bible is that modesty is much, much more than a heart issue, although the issue "fleshed out" can only be biblically done as the desire for it flows out of the heart. Dressing modestly is a dress issue. According to the Word of God, it is about dressing in a way that doesn't bring unnecessary attention or temptation. It is all about being "covered up" from below our neck down to the knee, because these are the areas that God considers to be nakedness. It's funny how many, many years ago, dressing modestly wasn't even an issue at all. It's what people that knew God just did. My husband and I were on vacation in South Haven, Michigan and they had all sorts of photographs blown up and framed of women "fully covered" in bathing dresses from the early 1900's. I'm sure all of those women weren't Christians, but their dress standards were obviously influenced by a culture that respected the counsel from the Word of God. Mrs. Fink
Naomi said Jun 25, 2011 02:50:56
Mrs. Fink, the more I've been pondering this issue, the more I come to see how really simple it is. God has not made it complicated. He's made it very clear for us to see.
1) There is to be an obvious distinction between the clothing of men and women.
2) The Bible is specific about what nakedness is -- below the neck to the knee -- and that we are to keep it covered. We also should not wear clothing that reveals the form of our bodies for all to plainly see.
3) How we dress affects others. Clothes that do not properly cover us or that are otherwise revealing cause our bodies to be a very great stumbling block to men. Dressing immodestly hurts our testimony before the world.
When we as ladies dress in a manner that sets us apart as ladies and clothes our bodies properly, we honor God and encourage others. Modesty is a heart issue but it must be evidenced in our appearance. The spirit is housed by the temple of the body. We are commanded to glorify God in our body and in our spirit. Doing so with our bodies comes first, then God can use our spirits, free from the distraction of our bodies, to have an impact upon those around us.
I wholehearted agree with you, I'm sorry I didn't seem to explain myself very well. I'm not as eloquent as you! :-)
I meant that our dress sense comes from our heart [Proverbs] You are very right in saying that it is more than a heart issue and is a 'dress issue.' I didn't really search out biblical rules when I started on my 'modesty journey' [perhaps] I just followed the Godly examples I had around me and I knew that I should be dressing like a lady, and nothing short, nothing tight and nothing low cut.
I also agree with you that back in the 1900's ladies dressed so much nicer. I wish I lived like Anne of green gables, with beautiful layered dresses, aprons and bonnets! :-)
KayteMcCoy said Jul 10, 2011 21:18:21
I haven't commented on this but have been thinking of the topic a lot lately. Good thoughts ladies! Also, I've been trying to find verses specifically speaking about the thigh as nakedness. I rememebr reading it before but I've "lost" it! LOL Anyone want to shorten my search time? =)
Blessed beyond measure wife, mommy, coffee addict, boo-boo kisser, toilet scrubber & lover of the life God has given me!
Naomi said Jul 11, 2011 01:26:56
1 Come down, and sit in the dust, O virgin daughter of Babylon, sit on the ground: there is no throne, O daughter of the Chaldeans: for thou shalt no more be called tender and delicate.
2 Take the millstones, and grind meal: uncover thy locks, make bare the leg, uncover the thigh, pass over the rivers.
3 Thy nakedness shall be uncovered, yea, thy shame shall be seen: I will take vengeance, and I will not meet thee as a man.
42 And thou shalt make them linen breeches to cover their nakedness; from the loins even unto the thighs they shall reach:
The Lord doesn't leave us to guesswork, does He? =)