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Why I closed my facebook account.

posted May 31, 2011 13:51:37 by Mrs. Julie Fink
For the past few weeks I have found myself becoming frustrated and discouraged because of the conversations I would read from "friends" that I visited with on facebook each day. I think facebook is a wonderful tool and I enjoyed many, many parts of it. But I found myself becoming overly concerned about the negative business of others and as a Pastor's Wife, I can't afford to be unnecessarily discouraged or distracted! But I still love visiting with likeminded friends and that is why I am starting this little conversation forum. I would love for you to drop by as much as you want and say "hi", tell me what you are cooking, sewing, doing or thinking about. I looking forward to our daily conversations together!
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BeckyTroup said May 31, 2011 16:20:40
That's a great reason...one I have considered myself. I have considered deleting all of my church friends b/c it does not help me to see the things they post and them see them in church. I sit through the service thinking, "are they listening?" That is not to say that I myself do not need to listen. It's just hard to put Philippians 4:8 into practice when there is so much negativity and discouragement on there. So, what am I cooking? nothing. Today my kids and I are sick and we are eating left overs from Chicken Tetrazini I cooked last night. Sewing? I wish! I could kick myself for not learning from my mother. She's a pro! I wasn't interested. Doing? Waiting on my doctor to call me in a prescription and I'll have to run to town (30 minutes away) to pick it up. Thinking? I'm fighting discouragement today. I've been spending most of the morning quoting verses in my mind and praying. I did write a blog post. Well, that's about it! Boring huh? lol I thank you for your work and I hope you will keep it up. We can encourage ourselves in the Lord and hopefully encourage each other.
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Mrs. Julie Fink said May 31, 2011 16:37:44
Well, do you know what I am doing right now? I am praying for YOU Becky. I'm praying that the God of all peace grants you His special peace today. Here are some verses of promise to encourage you today: "For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God?" I John 5:4-5
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YvonneDeanPierce said Jun 01, 2011 11:00:40
I also think this is a great idea. I agree with your reasons for quitting Facebook. Sometimes I go on self-imposed hiatus from Facebook because of the negativity, people bashing others, etc.

What am I cooking? Well, tonight we'll have baked spaghetti. We cooked a lot on Memorial Day and ate those leftovers last night. But, my husband doesn't care much for leftovers more than once so I will start anew today. What am I sewing? Nothing, sadly. I am only marginally experienced at sewing. But the question here has sparked a renewed interest, so who knows... And what am I doing? Well, aside from my everyday life, I am battling to be positive and upbeat and not let circumstances send me into depression. I live in a city that was devestated by an EF4 tornado on April 27th. My office and my husband's shops were decimated. So much of the heart of town was flattened; it is just so sad. We are so blessed to not have been injured or worse, but it is still hard. I've been leaning heavily on the Everlasting Arms since that fateful day.

Looking forward to participating here with wonderful ladies!

Yvonne
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Mrs. Julie Fink said Jun 01, 2011 11:36:45
Oh Yvonne! I'm so sorry! I can't even imagine what you are going through. I will of course be praying for you. Was your house devastated too? How is your husband doing? What happens with work when offices are destroyed? Bless your hearts. Since you are in the middle of this kind of a thing, what do you think is the most helpful thing other people can do to encourage you and others like you? Looking forward to hearing from you. Love, Julie
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YvonneDeanPierce said Jun 01, 2011 12:41:19
Thank you so much, Mrs. Fink. No, our home was just on the edge of the path of the tornado. We could hear it very clearly (sounded like a jet landing in our driveway) as we huddled in the hallway covering our daughter both with our bodies and with prayer. As soon as it was over we went outside and saw the back of the tornado as it continued on its deadly path (over 40 were killed in our city). My office was up and running from a temporary location in 4 business days. It is a service company so it was a few more days before we had trucks on the road and running. Our entire fleet was at the site and every truck destroyed. I am very blessed in that my boss is a good Christian man. He has had his battles with discouragement through all of this, but we are coming out bigger and better, even purchasing a new property that will house a bigger and better facility. My husband's business is a secondary business (retail shop). He has a primary job which was not affected. His parent's have an adjoining business and it too was devestated. They are in their late 70's/early 80's so it has been particularly hard on them. They too are strong Christian people though, and have also leaned heavily on the Lord during this time.

What is the most encouraging thing people can do? Of course prayer is number one. Also, just saying hey what do you need? And for those who lost their homes, I think someone coming beside them and just doing what they see needs to be done, without asking. So many people here lost loved ones and many more lost their homes - some older people who had 50+ years of memories in their four walls. We all know that the things of this world are not eternal, but it breaks my heart to see some of the older people who were left with nothing except the clothes on their backs.

I didn't mean to get into so much about this. It has been heavy on my heart for over a month but each day gets better. I have spent much time in prayer and reading the Word.

Thanks for starting this forum, Mrs. Fink. I think it will be a good thing!

Yvonne
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Mrs. Julie Fink said Jun 01, 2011 13:14:42
Yvonne, keep on sharing! I am fascinated by what you have experienced. I know that this sounds silly, but I have always wanted to see a tornado up close and personal. Many people say it sounds like a train, your description of it being like a jet plane sounded the same. What did you think when you saw it from behind?

My heart is so heavy for those that have lost so much because of the destruction left behind. Like you said, even though our hope is not in things, our things have meaning and they are tools used to cause us to be reminded of the goodness of God.

I'm so thankful for your faith and the faith of your husband and his family. Your family will be forever changed from this experience, I am sure. Yours will be a deeper knowledge of the power of God, the helplessness of man, the value of a moment, the mercy that is shown and the sorrow that comes.

I am praying for you. I do wish I lived closer and could do more. For now I will pray.

Keep on sharing! Love, Julie
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YvonneDeanPierce said Jun 01, 2011 14:52:35
Well, I am fascinated by weather. So while I knew this was a dire situation after seeing "the monster" as we've deemed it coming at us on the weather camera in town, I was also mesmerized by it. Living in an area that has frequent tornadoes, I feel as if many of us (myself included) had become a little numb to the many watches and warnings we have here. I will try to be as brief as possible to relate that experience.

We had been warned for two days that Wednesday, April 27th would be a significant weather day. Just after waking at 5 a.m., my weather alert radio sounded for a tornado warning. A twister touched down in a community in our county, taking out several houses in a neighborhood that some church members live in. Their families were spared and one friend lost a good portion of his empty house, which was up for sale. My husband works in an auto manufacturing plant near that area and several of their suppliers lost power so they decided to work until they ran out of parts. My daughter's school closed for day because many students were in the affected area and there were trees down on the major roads. I took my daughter to my mom's house and she stayed there until my husband got off work around 11:00 a.m. when they ran out of parts.

The skies were cloudy but not particularly forboding that day. There was a hot, stifling breeze blowing intermittantly. When I went out at lunch I thought to myself that perhaps the weather gurus had missed this one, that maybe the morning storm was all we were going to see. Because I am so interested in weather, my co-workers and boss asked me throughout the day "what does it look like?" "is anything going to happen?". I flipped back and forth from one of my favorite weather websites to another while working on end of the month tasks that beckoned to be done. Around 2:30 the technicians came in from appointments and we pulled up the radar. It didn't look very promising for storms, with only a few little pockets of rain to our west. Around 3, the operations manager said we should go on home, in case it got bad. I must pause here to interject that our office was in a warehouse butler-style metal building. There were no tornado shelters anywhere on the premises. And so, I went home where my family was relaxing. I did a little housework, paid some bills online and then around 4:45 p.m. switched the television to a local network to check on the weather situation.

Around 4:55, the local channels began showing a wall cloud that was being picked up on their weather cameras perched atop the city's tallest building. As we watched, the cloud seemed to almost dissipate into just a regular cloud, but then it all changed. It dipped back down to earth and became extremely wide. Smaller vortex tornadoes could be seen snaking in and out from the main cloud. Within a minute, we could see debris swirling around the massive cloud. The weather personnel zoomed out to capture the massive twister as it was growing wider and wider. They began to name where it was... it started on the outskirts of town around a community called Fosters. Ripping a path estimated at 1/2 to 3/4 mile wide, it began bearing down on town. For a few moments, it was expected to directly hit our public college campus here. Then it veered a little to the south and some of the most populated areas of town were named as being in its direct path.

At this point my husband and I were scrambling around the house, tossing blankets and pillows on our daughter who was in the hallway. We also do not have a tornado shelter in our home. As the roads coming right to our house were being named as being in the path, the power went out. My husband dashed to his vehicle and grabbed my daughter's batting helmet and push the front door shut just as we began to hear the most awful, terrible noise I have ever heard. As we both laid across her, hoping to keep her from being hit by any debris, I began to pray very loudly. I truly believed that this would be our last moments on this earth. And yet I was at peace about it. I knew I was ready to see my Lord and Saviour face to face if He had appointed this my time to do so. As my ears popped, the tornado advanced just behind our home, about .3 mile away. The sound was incredible as it passed so close. And then, it was gone. We could still hear its sickening growl, but it had missed us. My husband and I ran outside to see the back of the monster over the treeline as it left our area and continued on.

With no electricity and phone service practically unavailable, we felt isolated and deserted. Neighbors and friends came outside after a few moments and everyone checked on everyone else. Our neighborhood's other end suffered extensive damage and there were trees and power lines down everywhere. But no one was injured or worse where we were. Cell service was spotty but we found text messages went through better. My husband said he was going to go check on the stores he and his family owned, right in the path of the tornado. He texted me a short while later: "Gone. I can't believe what I am seeing. Nothing but rubble left." I had texted my boss, his wife and the operations manager to see if everyone was OK. The delayed reponses came via text: "WPC is gone." And later, a photo on text of a pile of debris.

In the days that followed, we would see much heartache but also much to rejoice over. So many people called, texted and came to check on us. There has been such an outpouring of concern and help, it is at times overwhelming. I got out the next afternoon and surveyed the sites of the stores as well as my office. It was incredible. So much damage was everywhere. The heart of town was reduced to piles of rubble. Vehicles were tossed about like toy cars, some even sticking out of the rubble of buildings. The fleet from my office was completely decimated. One truck perched on it's top with gas pouring out.

BUT, God is faithful. Although we lost much, we gained much. There were miracles of every scale all around us. The miracle that we were not there; one small decision could have cost all of us our lives, but instead it put us in a safe place from the storm. My desk was unrecognizable, reduced to splinters of wood. Yet my computer that sat underneath it was in perfect working order. The huge steel beams that held the building high were twisted and pulled apart, one large one resting on the area where my desk once sat. The force of the winds even ripped the carpeting off the floor! Unusual things were found that you might not expect: my tear-off desk calendar was found with mud all over it, but the page still on "April 27", not a single page ripped off. My Bible which was on the shelf behind my chair was found unharmed, yet the shelf unit was never recovered. A coaster my daughter so lovingly made sat on my desk & she asked me specifically about it after the storm. It was found and I use it even now.

Through it all, I know that God is in control. What might be seen as meant for evil, HE meant it for good. He has a plan for us and it is a perfect plan. Although this is not what we have chosen, we know that He knew it was going to happen and that He wants us to grow closer to Him through it all.

Yvonne
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BeckyTroup said Jun 01, 2011 19:53:31
That is SO nice that you would pray for ME! Thank you SO MUCH! The verses DID encourage me! Thanks friend!
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Mrs. Julie Fink said Jun 01, 2011 22:33:46
That is amazing Yvonne. Absolutely amazing!
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Naomi said Jun 02, 2011 19:26:14
I just wanted to say that I think this forum will be a blessing, as I seen it already has! I have always felt that Facebook was something the Lord did not want me to be involved in. There are some advantages to it but I believe it has done more harm than help to a lot of people. It is too easy to become indiscreet with what is shared and to become associated with the wrong people. Anyway, I think this forum is a very wonderful idea! =)

What am I cooking? I made homemade biscuits and sausage gravy for my family for breakfast. Sewing? I'm restoring a baby quilt made by my grandmother over 20 years ago. It's quite special. =) Thinking about? My parents. They are in Iowa for a shoulder surgery my dad had done last week. He had a torn rotator cuff, bone spurs, tendon deterioration, etc. The surgery was successful but he is in considerable pain, and the therapy will take several months. My mom will be back home on June 10. My siblings and I are alone in our little village for the time being -- the Lord is taking good care of us! We have been showing preaching videos by Dr. S.M. Davis for our church services, and my sister and I have been having a WONDERFUL time teaching our sweet Eskimo children during our Sunday afternoon Bible Time. God's care and guidance have been so evident to my family during the past few months. We would truly appreciate your prayers for us and our ministry as my dad remains in the States for two to three months for therapy.

May the Lord bless you with a wonderful day, Mrs. Fink!

Love, Naomi
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SarahCharters said Jun 02, 2011 23:20:47
Hi Mrs. Fink, I just wanted to drop by and say hello and that I LOVE this new forum that you have put together. I am encouraged by how you purposely sought out a more edifying way to keep in touch with us!
I love how your ministry initially started with such a small number of people in your living room and because you were faithful in a small number of ladies, has now grown so much - I wonder if you ever imagined having people from other countries reading and listening to your teaching and example?! Luke 16:10 "He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much."

People always seek out the encouragers in their lives, and you my dear friend are MY biggest encourager- even though you don't know it!

xxx
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stdudley said Jun 04, 2011 03:01:39
I agree, Facebook has good things like keeping up with family but I think I should delete church people from it as well because I am reading some things I do not think need to be posted on a social network. A fellow pastor's wife here in Georgia did a 30 meals for 30 days recently where she cooked a meal ecery day for 30 days and delivered it to someone in her community ( school, neighbors, etc) I am seriously thinking of starting this as a way to " love on " the people in our area. She made easy recipes like soups, salads and cookies, nothing fancy or expensive. I think it's a great way to reach out and help others around me.
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Mrs. Julie Fink said Jun 04, 2011 03:36:22
Hi Stacie! I love that idea too! Hope all is going well. Love, Julie
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ReneeBaker said Jun 04, 2011 20:02:07
Well I totaly understand your decision and we will keep in touch other ways, like this way to conversate it's more personal, I'm loving my new place, it so much more fun to unpack and decorate, miss you! Love,Renee
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Mrs. Julie Fink said Jun 04, 2011 20:16:13
Hi Sarah,

So nice to hear from you HERE :). I'm really liking this forum thing as a personal way to connect. Hope you are enjoying a wonderful, wonderful day. Love, Mrs. Fink
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